Acholics dating custody
I still struggle 2 years after our divorce to understand how my ex could have let alcohol ruin our marriage and family.
As an alcoholic, they don't think what they are doing is wrong.
In the event that is not possible for whatever reason, then the fourth day will rotate between us every other week.2) You will commit to picking up and returning the children at a certain hour/certain day, unless other arrangements have been made.3) You will not take the children outside an agreed upon mileage radius, unless I approve beforehand.4) The children will call the custodial parent every night before bed, after school (or whatever time is firmly committed to).5) Neither one of us may make significant decisions regarding vacations, parties, medical issues, etc...without discussing and obtaining the approval of the other prior to the intended date.6) I am concerned about your alcoholic intake.
Though it is none of my business if you wish to drink or not, it is my concern if it happens while the children are in your custody.
I need to hear from you by phone (not text or e-mail) by am on the days that you have the children.
Please be aware that if I don't, I will come and get them.
If you feel so inclined, you may allow the alcoholic/addict parent to come up with their own proposal and possibly come to a mutual agreement and understanding.
The most important thing the custodial parent can do is formulate a co-parental agreement.
Many of my clients have come to me wondering how they should handle the relationship with their ex-spouse or significant other as it pertains to their children.
Sadly, divorce or separation has become imminent due to the presence of continued substance abuse or numerous unsuccessful attempts at sobriety.
This blog is not about judging the disposition of the marriage or partnership or to give comment as to whether the couple has done everything they can to save the relationship.
Also, I am not a child psychologist so other options may be important to take into consideration other than my opinion on this issue.