How to go from good friends to dating
Kelly: Well, you spend as much time together as you possibly can, eventually you get irritated for pretty much no reason. One of our goals this year is to spend more time with other people because we need that to avoid some of those moments when we’re staring at each other and thinking, “OMG, GO AWAY!
Ashley: We sometimes get stuck in our little bubble, just seeing each other, just talking to each other, just hanging out together, and it’s fun for a really long time. ”Kelly: Talk to your friend, see how they feel, and go from there.
And we introduce each other to new things all the time.
Plus, he’s fun to talk to about anything because he’s animated, opinionated and hilarious.
We had a shared history, our siblings adored each other and we even went on a few joint-family vacations.
Having personally experienced both the positives and the negatives of dating a friend, I’ll say this: there are few things more precious than a friendship that becomes more than a friendship, but there are also few things more painful than losing a romantic relationship and a friendship simultaneously. To commemorate the end of Friendship Month at Man Repeller, I interviewed five couples who braved the stakes and went from “friends” to “more than friends.” Below, their thoughts on what that leap was like.
If it works out, great — but if it doesn’t, well, there’s a good chance the friendship won’t survive unscathed.
Also, if your friend doesn’t share those feelings, don’t be angry with them. I would have liked it to be more then, but it wasn’t, so we became friends. Brice: I always harbored a greater appreciation and respect for Maggie than “just a friend.”Maggie: The best year of my life. The company had just gone through some big milestones and I was totally fried. The moment we saw each other – we hadn’t seen each other in a while – it was on. Of being alive.’ It was real life, better than I could have imagined.
(So far.)Brice: We could say we’ve been together for a year, but we could also say we’ve not been apart for eight or nine or 10 in many ways. Pretty much out of the blue, he said, ‘Look, I need to get out of town. It just made total sense, and was a complete surprise at the same time.
I’m booking a flight to New Orleans for this weekend. Brice: I should have been with Maggie since ’08, but then again, I suspect I am better because of the experiences in between. A decade of dating in NYC can teach you a lot about yourself.
Brice: [Defers to Maggie]Maggie: We met at our first job. Crew straight out of school – he was in men’s design, I was in women’s merchandising.