How to stop dating someone
For whatever reason, you were not right for someone else. It is easy to get hung up on the “whys” behind their decision, but dwelling on them doesn’t change the reality.
If you aren’t right for someone else, they aren’t right for you.
My best friend called it “going for another round.” It took me years to realize that I was addicted to the experience of dating itself.
There is a great deal of novelty in meeting new people and experiencing new things with them while clinging to the distant hope that one of them just might click.
One day this realization hit me like a ton of bricks while I was obsessing over the failure of my latest relationship.
In the two-and-a-half hours I leave the house each week, is he going to trip on me at Starbucks while I’m nervously palming my skinny hazelnut latte and completely avoiding eye contact?The best part about it was that even though I was still excited about a great date, there was not longer the subtle hint of desperation in my interactions.To continue to date without this emotional cycle was difficult but essential.The ups and downs were enough to keep me hooked, as I allowed my feelings about myself to be dictated by the opinions of people I barely knew. Somewhere along the way, I had let my ego get completely tied up in these experiences.I had fallen into the trap of letting my opinions of my failed relationships shape my opinion of myself. While it was often an uncomfortable, awkward, painful, struggle, eventually I was ecstatic when I found a few that seemed to fit.