Insecurity and dating
We’ve been led to believe that the surest way to impress the ladies (or the men, depending) is to have self-confidence: an inner assurance that you are a pretty datable person, all things considered. Equally—if not more—effective, at least these days, is to be truly, almost obsessively insecure.We know this because of a new study co-authored by Claudia Brumbaugh, a young psychology professor at Queens College.But with regards to mental health issues and the rising number of people battling these illnesses, I just hope that the negative stigma I get in a dating capacity starts to diminish.I’m just as loving and fun as those who don’t suffer and if I wasn’t written off so quickly as a red flag, guys would see there are plenty of other great parts about me to love.
Here are the reasons dating and relationships are much harder for a person who suffers from anxiety. Getting ready for a first date for most people is fun and exciting.
I have those excited moments, too, but they’re usually accompanied by nervous shaking and fear of the unknown.
Uncertainty is the hardest part of the battle, so welcoming a new person into my life in a romantic way is pretty much the most terrifying thing ever.
I call it the ‘new boyfriend (or girlfriend) replacement therapy’.
It hurts so much when you’re breaking up with a narcissist.
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Andrea Wesley Andrea is a Thirty-Something freelance writer living in the suburbs of Vancouver, Canada with her ridiculous ginger tabby, Jagger.